Me and my husband in Bend, OR before COVID and before we got married ❤

I’ve been blogging for over 3 years on Medium. My only other experience is my lifetime of journal writings, which you can find on my publication Up Close and Personal.

I’m the owner of The Virago, a women’s publication I started in June, 2020 with a group of fantastic women…


“Never hitting me” was one excuse for staying

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I don’t talk much about my second marriage. It’s because I don’t think much about that man, nor do I have anything, such as children, that keeps me bonded to him.

However, the abuse I received from him was as devastating as my first marriage. Maybe even more so, since…


As a mother of an adult woman, all I could think about was that she was dead

My daughter, Sierra, with my son in the background. Photo: courtesy of Facebook

My daughter, Sierra, is 32 years old. She’s a beautiful, successful young woman with a huge heart.

Sierra got married this year and has been struggling with some relationship problems. …


Hint: It’s all about the patriarchy

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As a female who writes about women’s struggles and self-empowerment, there will come a time when someone — usually a man — makes a comment to deny our ideas as false, label us as a toxic feminist, or criticize our existence.

But, this isn’t just about a man trying to…


It took months to overcome my desire to return to an abusive relationship

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I am only giving my opinions and my experiences in this article. I am not a mental health therapist, and I recognize that how I freed myself from abuse is not necessarily the same steps other domestic violence women should take. …


Don’t let others define your self-worth

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I want everyone to know I’m a Goddess.

I am beautiful, loving, and sexy.

I love my hair, my eyes, my lips, my neck, my hands, my breasts, and my vagina.

I am creative, kind, and talented. I can dive deep into the essence of life.

I am also intelligent…


The new “how to” for dehumanizing women in America

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As Texas has passed the controversial law to ban abortions after six weeks, without exceptions for rape or incest, other states have a new avenue to up their game and follow suit.

Guess which state has immediately jumped on the bandwagon?

That’s right, it’s Florida.

The frontrunner in unconscionable rhetoric…


I have answers

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Whenever the topic of women’s oppression comes to the surface, men go on the rampage to ensure their rights stay intact. Suddenly it’s a national crisis if there’s a suggestion that men adhere to the same standards as applied to women.

I was recently in a group discussion (primarily men)…


And it’s going to get much worse

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Since the Texas Heartbeat Bill passed in the State of Texas, we women are reeling over the constitutional right to have a choice over our bodies being taken away from us.

This constitutional right is new for us. Only a hundred years ago, not only did women not have the…


Even when I’m supposed to be having fun

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I didn’t want to play the game with everyone. I knew it was a bonding experience with no judgment, but still. I grew anxious and upset the closer the time came to play a group game of cornhole.

My husband and I went over to my brother-in-law’s house, joined with…

Michelle Jaqua

Advocate for Women / Owner of The Virago

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