Hi Kay, be very careful. Being in an abusive relationship is complex. The abuser breaks down their victim, they are manipulative and exert a power over them, creating a cycle that makes it very difficult for a victim to break free. A victim who tries to leave can be even more harmful to her than staying. Many victims experience increased violence when they try to or succeed at leaving their abuser. Those who try to help also expose themselves to the violence of the abuser.
Here’s a couple articles you can read to educate yourself more on this dynamic:
How to Help Someone in an Abusive Relationship
In my book Unhealthy Helping: A Psychological Guide for Overcoming Codependency, Enabling, and Other Dysfunctional…
Supporting Someone Who Keeps Returning... - The Hotline
It can be so difficult to watch someone you care about deal with an abusive relationship. Even more difficult is…
What you can do to help
Learn what to say and do, and what not to say and do, to help a friend who is being abused.
Good luck, I feel your pain.