I think most people believe the dumper has no feelings since they are the one who’s ending the relationship, but there’s always two sides to every story, and the one ending the marriage may be in even more pain than the other person. You’re right, there’s usually red flags, but we allow ourselves to ignore them and let the relationship starve, wither and die. Great story, Bonnie Barton .

Advocate for Women / Editor of The Virago

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