The Things Money Won’t Give You

Money isn’t everything, so let’s keep it in perspective

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Love

Of course, money will give you the material things that you desire. But desire isn’t the same as love. I’m not talking about you loving your material objects. I’m talking about love between you and the people in your life.

Love is complex. It’s a feeling and also an action. It’s showing someone you’re committed to them. You have affection for them. You want to do things for them to show them they matter. You give and receive love because that person is important in your life. There’s no way can money buy something like this.

Time

Time moves the same for all of us. You only have so much of it in life, and money cannot buy you more. Productive people make good use of their time. Happy people spend their time making a better life for themselves and their community. Most people waste some of their time. Decide how you want to ‘spend’ your time. However you spend it shows what you care about the most.

Respect

You may think having lot of money will earn you respect. People who are wealthy can buy power. Not respect. A wealthy person may have others following commands, but that isn’t respect. They may fear his power, but they don’t necessarily respect him.

How you treat others will give you more respect than money ever will. Give regard for the rights of others, their differences, their feelings and their way of life. Let go of any preconceived notions about a person and let them be themselves. If you give respect, you will get it back. That is something you can’t buy.

Manners

Good manners is an extension of respect. It’s having an effective interaction with another person by showing them they have your attention. Good manners is behaving in a way that honors the other person. You can get angry and still have manners. You can confront a confict with manners. It’s not something you can buy. It’s something you learn and it’s part of your upbringing. If you weren’t raised with manners, then you can teach yourself to behave in a more civil way.

Anyone with bad manners shows a lack of concern for others, tossed out the window, in favor of their own feelings, wants and needs. They lack the decency of giving the person in front of them the ability to interact in a rational manner. They cut the person down for their own benefit and to look superior. It’s an entitlement, and it doesn’t matter if you are wealthy or the poorest soul on earth. If you have bad manners, you’re working against yourself and will make others not want to have anything to do with you.

Real Friends

It’s easy to have friends as long as everything is gliding by okay. But If you’ve ever gone through a life crisis, you know that a true friend will stick by your side. He will be there for you while you figure your life out. Real friends rise to the surface when life gets tough. These are the people who remain with you because they love you. It has nothing to do with money, and they are your friends regardless of what you have, but rather because of who you are. Connections like this transcends anything money can buy.

Other things money can’t buy:

Trust

Patience

Peace

Humility

Perspective

Selflessness

Reputation

Talent

Wisdom

So, lets put money into perspective. It’s a tool to get you the things you need in life: shelter, food, transportation, clothing and some extras that are fun to have. But it doesn’t give you the essential things in life to make you a happy, well-rounded person. If you understand this, you’ll stop putting money on a pedestal and use it for your needs. Stop focusing on money as the end-all, and instead, become the person who possesses these other, more important things in life.

Michelle Jaqua is a blogger on Medium.com. She writes to inspire people towards emotional healing, personal development, and living a passionate life. You can find her blog here.

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Advocate for Women / Editor of The Virago

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